Lets Talk – Therapy

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My Personal Experience with a Therapist.

Therapy. The idea was quite daunting to me; confiding in a complete stranger made my social anxiety meter rage with fear. When things started to spiral out of control (or so I thought), I was desperate to try anything.

It was one of the greatest decisions I ever made.

She has helped me in an abundance of extraordinary ways. She has helped me make connections between my thoughts and reality. She always knows exactly the right questions to ask. She really seeks to understand, and challenges my thought processes. She opens my eyes to new perspectives, and provides me with valuable insights. She has made a significant impact on my life, and I am internally grateful for her guidance and support.

Keep in mind – sometimes finding a therapist, that is right or you, can be a bit of trial and error. You have to find someone you can trust wholeheartedly, and feel comfortable enough to fully open up to and allow yourself to be vulnerable with.

I understand that there may be financial constraints that may hinder your ability to access this type of resource or service (which is a big part of why I created this blog – a project that will hopefully come to light in the next couple of months, so stay tuned), but there is are many organizations that help connect you with “non-profit support services”. Just do a quick google search of the Mental Health Association or Organizations in your location! Hospital websites also provide information about available services that are located in their district. I will also list a few websites at the end of this Post.

Here are a list of common questions I had when I was debating
seeking help from a therapist.


WHY should I seek help from a Therapist?

  • You’re experiencing unexpected mood swings
  • You’re undergoing a big change.
  • You’re having harmful thoughts.
  • You’re withdrawing from things that used to bring you joy.
  • You’re feeling isolated or alone.
  • You’re using a substance to cope with issues in your life.
  • You suspect you might have a serious mental health condition.
  • You feel like you’ve lost control.
  • Your relationships feel strained
  • Your sleeping patterns are off.
  • You just feel like you need to talk to someone

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WHAT can therapy help me with?

Therapy helps individuals, couples, and families address personal difficulties by allowing you to talk openly and confidentially about concerns and feelings with a trained professional.

Therapy may be useful if:

  • You’re facing situations causing you stress, anxiety and upset.
  • You are experiencing intense or uncomfortable feelings such as anger, sadness, fear, frustration and depression.
  • You are behaving in ways that don’t fit your normal pattern, don’t serve your needs, or are problematic to you or others.
  • You are thinking thoughts that are peculiar, hard to understand, out-of-control or disturbing.
  • You’ve experienced a traumatic event, such as sexual abuse, domestic violence, a serious accident or a criminal injury.
  • You are dealing with a relationship issue or family conflict.
  • You’re going through a difficult life transition, such as the death of a loved one, a life-threatening illness, divorce, separation, or a mid-life crisis.
  • You are challenged by family issues, such as parenting, child-rearing, adolescence, and aging parents.
  • You need help with an addiction such as smoking, alcohol, drugs, sex or gambling.
  • You have an eating disorder.
  • You are facing difficulties with matters of gender identity, sexual orientation, racism and oppression.
  • You wish to explore spiritual issues, questions of meaning or matters of faithCredit: Psychotherapy Ontario

HOW can therapy help me?

  • Understand your mental health condition
  • Define and reach wellness goals
  • Overcome fears or insecurities
  • Cope with stress
  • Make sense of past traumatic experiences
  • Separate your true personality from the moods caused by your condition
  • Identify triggers that may worsen your symptoms
  • Improve relationships with family and friends
  • Establish a stable, dependable routine
  • Develop a plan for coping with crises
  • Understand why things bother you and what you can do about them
  • End destructive habits such as drinking, using drugs, overspending or unhealthy sex

Credit: Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance

WHO provides Therapy or Counselling?

Many kinds of mental health specialists may provide talk therapy. Some common professionals include:

  • Psychiatrists (MD)
  • Psychologists (PhD, PsyD, EdD, MS)
  • Social workers (DSW, MSW, LCSW, LICSW, CCSW)
  • Counselors (MA, MS, LMFT, LCPC)
  • Psychiatric nurses (APRN, PMHN).

Your ability to talk honestly and openly with your therapist, set
clear goals and make real progress are the most important things. Think
of your relationship with your therapist as a partnership. The two
of you will work together to help you feel better. You do not need
to feel ashamed or embarrassed about talking openly
and honestly about your feelings and concerns.

Credit: Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance

HOW do I get the most of my Therapy?

When you first begin therapy, make a list of the things that are bothering you and the issues you would like help with. Bring it with you to your first appointment. You might include:

  • Issues in your family or other relationships
  • Symptoms like changes in eating or sleeping habits
  • Anger, anxiety, irritability or troubling feelings
  • Thoughts of hurting yourself

Credit: Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance


Additional Resources:

Ontario Society of Psychotherapist : Why choose psychotherapy?

American Psychiatric Association: Psychotherapy

Canadian Mental Health Association: Getting Help

American Psychology Association: Understanding Psychotherapy

Credit: Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance

National Institute of Mental Health: Help for Mental Health

Mental Health America : Find Help

Please Comment and Share Mental Health
Resources available in your Country.

No Blog Day

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I have had zero motivation to write a blog today.

I spent the better part of morning tirelessly trying to think of something, anything to write about.

I take comfort in knowing that I am not the only one that struggles with this ordeal.

What gives you guys inspiration?

My blog will be a place where I post material that people can relate to. Material that speaks truth and honesty. A place where we can all learn from each other and gain a deeper understanding, and perhaps new perspectives on life, love, and everything in-between. My vision is to create a space where people feel comfortable and free to discussion their feelings, views and beliefs honestly. A cozy atmosphere where people feel confident and safe to come for guidance and support, a place where we can lean on each other.

I recently turned to Pinterest for some inspiration. It has such great ideas.

Some topics, or personal experiences, that I will (probably) be discussing in the near future will be:

The horrors of online dating
Apps I live by

Nursing Notes
List of things that made me happy this month
Simple Pleasures
Someone I admire
Products I love
How to get through a break up
Unhealthy Relationships
Learning to embrace change
Organization / Productivity
First date Tips
Journey with painting
Stay in date nights
Dating on a budget
Deal Breakers in Relationships
Cancer   
Depression and Anxiety
My Love Language
Story of Compulsive Worrier 

Random thoughts, feelings, and views

Those should keep me occupied for a while.

Rachel Page ♥

A Letter to my Bully(s)

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It has taken me until now to be able to face up to the wrongful ways in which you treated me or acted towards me.

The mental abuse was like knives to my heart that has left deep scars that have only ever partially healed.

No one should have to endure that amount of suffering, for any reason, at any time in their lives.

I can recall countless times that I was humiliated by crude comments, degraded by the spread of false rumours, scrutinized by what I said or didn’t say, and belittled to make me feel less important.

Your cruelty made me bitter, unable to trust anyone, not even myself.

I was left feeling inadequate, empty and alone, and in complete silence.

There were days where I was terrified to go to school, struck with fear of the monsters that would be waiting for me.

I became fearful; I isolated myself from the world and people.

I lost interest of the simple pleasures of life.

I was only a young girl;

I felt helpless, worthless and alone.

I felt persistently sad, and empty. I became tirelessly worried but unable to sleep from the constant worry.

My weight greatly fluctuated between a battle of eating for comfort or feelings sickened with nausea from the overwhelming emotions. I became preoccupied and uncomfortable with my body-image.

I hated myself!

If the constant depressive state wasn’t enough, the anxiety was eating away at my mind and body.

I became highly anxious to be around people. Fear of being judged, rejected, or humiliated.

I would avoid places where my fellow peers would be.

When I did attend school, I would often tremble in fear.

Middle School and High School are supposed to be filled with joyous memories, but unfortunately mine are only of pain and suffering.

I remember the name calling, the shouting, and the hurtful messages written to me on object with permanent marker. I remember the disgraceful flyers (hundreds of them) that were spread around my High School, the disgusting signs and notes left on my locker, and the online mental trauma and empty threats.

I lost total self-esteem, self-confidence; I lost myself and the ability to love myself.

I started to act out, losing respect for my parental rules.

I started on risky journey and experimented with smoking, alcohol and drugs.

I cut myself to feel something, anything.

But with any life experience, good or bad, there are life lessons to be learned.

Because of you,

I gained insight and perspective.

I grew with strength and perseverance.

I vowed to always be kind, respectful, conscientious, empathetic, and soulful.

I learned to love blindly, wholeheartedly, and deeply.

I learned so much about the value of relationships.

I grew.

All because of you.

Thank you.

Today, I love myself.

Most importantly, despite everything, I forgive you.

-Rachel Page ♥

Please comment, provide feedback, like, and share – I truly appreciate it! ♥

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A Letter to my Bully(s)

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It has taken me until now to be able to face up to the wrongful ways in which you treated me or acted towards me.

The mental abuse was like knives to my heart that has left deep scars that have only ever partially healed.

No one should have to endure that amount of suffering, for any reason, at any time in their lives.

I can recall countless times that I was humiliated by crude comments, degraded by the spread of false rumours, scrutinized by what I said or didn’t say, and belittled to make me feel less important.

Your cruelty made me bitter, unable to trust anyone, not even myself.

I was left feeling inadequate, empty and alone, and in complete silence.

There were days where I was terrified to go to school, struck with fear of the monsters that would be waiting for me.

I became fearful; I isolated myself from the world and people.

I lost interest of the simple pleasures of life.

I was only a young girl;

I felt helpless, worthless and alone.

I felt persistently sad, and empty. I became tirelessly worried but unable to sleep from the constant worry.

My weight greatly fluctuated between a battle of eating for comfort or feelings sickened with nausea from the overwhelming emotions. I became preoccupied and uncomfortable with my body-image.

I hated myself!

If the constant depressive state wasn’t enough, the anxiety was eating away at my mind and body.

I became highly anxious to be around people. Fear of being judged, rejected, or humiliated.

I would avoid places where my fellow peers would be.

When I did attend school, I would often tremble in fear.

Middle School and High School are supposed to be filled with joyous memories, but unfortunately mine are only of pain and suffering.

I remember the name calling, the shouting, and the hurtful messages written to me on object with permanent marker. I remember the disgraceful flyers (hundreds of them) that were spread around my High School, the disgusting signs and notes left on my locker, and the online mental trauma and empty threats.

I lost total self-esteem, self-confidence; I lost myself and the ability to love myself.

I started to act out, losing respect for my parental rules.

I started on risky journey and experimented with smoking, alcohol and drugs.

I cut myself to feel something, anything.

But with any life experience, good or bad, there are life lessons to be learned.

Because of you,

I gained insight and perspective.

I grew with strength and perseverance.

I vowed to always be kind, respectful, conscientious, empathetic, and soulful.

I learned to love blindly, wholeheartedly, and deeply.

I learned so much about the value of relationships.

I grew.

All because of you.

Thank you.

Today, I love myself.

Most importantly, despite everything, I forgive you.

-Rachel Page ♥

Please comment, provide feedback, like, and share – I truly appreciate it! ♥

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The Law – of Attraction. (The Secret)

 

Where do I even begin?

The Secret.
Life transforming!

I was a huge skeptic too, at first. 

How could a single book(s), or theory hold so much truth? So much wisdom? So much perspective? Why wasn’t everyone following the words of this book? Why isn’t everyone leading the life they want? Why isn’t everyone radiating with happiness? 

Too bad for them, right? Not exactly. To believe is a choice. It is a similar choice people make when they decide to believe in God (or not). You believe because you want to believe. You believe because it provides you with hope, faith, love, and happiness. It provides you with guidance, purpose, and value. You will find an abundance of research on the internet that either affirms the Law of Attraction theory or is against it. Ultimately, the choice is yours. But seriously, what do you have to lose?

I wanted to share this book, and its secrets – its words, with everyone. I was so moved by it that I stopped in at the local bookstore on my way to meet a friend one evening.  I ended up being late for our date, for once (only by 15 mins), but it brought me so much joy to provide him with this gift.

What is The Secret?

It is the Law of Attraction.

 ” It is the belief that the universe creates and provides for you that which your thoughts are focused on. “Like Always Attracts like.” The results of positive thoughts are always positive consequences. The same holds true for negative thoughts always leading to bad outcomes.” – The Law of Attraction 


Thoughts Produce Things.

Learn more about the Law of Attraction

The secret really highlights the practice of daily gratitude. Being genuinely thankful, from your heart and soul, is the ultimate way to attract positive consequences. And it really feels great. It means you appreciate more than just yourself. Selflessness.

Every evening, or just before bed, I write a list of the things I am grateful for that day, as well as the things I am grateful for that will come into my life in the future. I wake up the next morning feeling happy and refreshed, conjuring up new ways that I can give back to the life.

The Secret Film is available on Neflix.

Visit Rhonda Byrne’s Page to view (and purchase) the book(s).

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Rachel Page ♥

Comments, feedback, shares, and likes are greatly appreciated ♥

 

Rejuvenate Your Mind and Body with these Simple Practices

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Self Care 101

Your mind and body deserved to be lavished with some quality tender love and care, every once in a while. Preferably, daily.

How are you supposed to give your absolute best to life when you don’t feel your absolute best?

Life comes with an abundance of demands, and not everyone knows how to adequately cope with them. Some people can manage many tasks in a given period without feeling constrained, whereas others may feel the burden of stress and become easily overwhelmed.


Here are some simple, yet effective, self-care practices that can help you feel relaxed, and rejuvenated:

Sleep –  Go to bed early and get into a routine.

Mindfulness and meditation – Get in-touch with your inner self.

Exercise and eat healthy – Because you will look and feel great.

Disconnect from technology – Because it is frying our brains.

Drink water –  Drink least 1.5 to 2L a day (and more if you exercise).

Take a break – Escape for 10 mins, close your eyes and just breathe.

Practice Gratitude – I can’t preach this enough, the more thankful you are, the happier you will be.

Recite positive affirmations – Because you truly are an amazing person.

Smile more, laugh often – Instant joy for the soul.

Inspirational / Life Quotes –  Read a few before you go to bed.

Go outside – Become one with nature, or just go breathe in some fresh air.

Call a loved one – and tell them how much you appreciate and love them (and miss them).

Meet up with a friend – Friends are good for the soul.

Snuggle up with a love one – Because it feels awesome!

A long, embraced hug from a loved one – Because it also feels awesome!

Declutter your space – Because it really does declutter your mind.

Go on a date with yourself – It will make you feel great about yourself.

Music therapy – There is nothing more therapeutic than getting lost in thought and music.

Learn to say “No”– Be honest, if there is something you don’t want to do, speak up!

Learn a new skill – Because it makes you feel accomplished, and you may even discover a hidden passion.

Self-help books – Because they really can help. They provide many tools to help manage emotions, they help make connections, they can really transform your view of life, and help you to view it with a positive, less complicated lens.

Relieve stress with Colouring – Seriously it works!

Submerge yourself – in water, a nice hot bath. Throw in some bath bombs (if you must), light some candles, and turn on some peaceful music. It feels AmaZZING! Tranquility!

Read a book  – Getting lost in the pages of a good novel, is a really great temporary escape from reality.

Mani/Pedi/Massage – Because pampering yourself never felt better!

Reflect on your accomplishments – Because it truly does affirm how incredibly hard you have worked to get where you are now. You will appreciate your efforts, and feel proficient.

Check-in on your life goals (are you on track?) – Helps you to make necessary adjustments in a timely manner, or confirms if you are on track.

Stay Organized (Daily tasks/goals) – You will feel less overwhelmed, and be more productive.

Journal – Get your thoughts down on paper.  I suggest you fill your journal with positive thoughts. Turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts.  Write down what you are thankful for, talk about the positive moments that happened, and write positive affirmations about yourself.

READ “The Secret” By Rhonda Byrne – Because it will transform your life.

When all else fails…….. A glass of Pinot always does the trick.

The End! ♥

Rejuvenate Your Mind and Body – Simple Practices

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Self Care 101

Your mind and body deserved to be lavished with some quality tender love and care, every once in a while. Preferably, daily.

How are you supposed to give your absolute best to life when you don’t feel your absolute best?

Life comes with an abundance of demands, and not everyone knows how to adequately cope with them. Some people can manage many tasks in a given period without feeling constrained, whereas others may feel the burden of stress and become easily overwhelmed.


Here are some simple, yet effective, self-care practices that can help you feel relaxed, and rejuvenated:

Sleep – Go to bed early and get into a routine.

Mindfulness and meditation – Get in-touch with your inner self.

Exercise and eat healthy – Because you will look and feel great.

Disconnect from technology – Because it is frying our brains.

Drink water – Drink least 1.5 to 2L a day (and more if you exercise).

Take a break – Escape for 10 mins, close your eyes and just breathe.

Practice Gratitude – I can’t preach this enough, the more thankful you are, the happier you will be.

Recite positive affirmations – Because you truly are an amazing person.

Smile more, laugh often – Instant joy for the soul.

Inspirational / Life Quotes – Read a few before you go to bed.

Go outside – Become one with nature, or just go breathe in some fresh air.

Call a loved one – and tell them how much you appreciate and love them (and miss them).

Meet up with a friend – Friends are good for the soul.

Snuggle up with a love one – Because it feels awesome!

A long, embraced hug from a loved one – Because it also feels awesome!

Declutter your space – Because it really does declutter your mind.

Go on a date with yourself – It will make you feel great about yourself.

Music therapy – There is nothing more therapeutic than getting lost in thought and music.

Learn to say “No”– Be honest, if there is something you don’t want to do, speak up!

Learn a new skill – Because it makes you feel accomplished, and you may even discover a hidden passion.

Self-help books – Because they really can help. They provide many tools to help manage emotions, they help make connections, they can really transform your view of life, and help you to view it with a positive, less complicated lens.

Relieve stress with Colouring – Seriously it works!

Submerge yourself – in water, a nice hot bath. Throw in some bath bombs (if you must), light some candles, and turn on some peaceful music. It feels AmaZZING! Tranquility!

Read a book – Getting lost in the pages of a good novel, is a really great temporary escape from reality.

Mani/Pedi/Massage – Because pampering yourself never felt better!

Reflect on your accomplishments – Because it truly does affirm how incredibly hard you have worked to get where you are now. You will appreciate your efforts, and feel proficient.

Check-in on your life goals (are you on track?) – Helps you to make necessary adjustments in a timely manner, or confirms if you are on track.

Stay Organized (Daily tasks/goals) – You will feel less overwhelmed, and be more productive.

Journal – Get your thoughts down on paper. I suggest you fill your journal with positive thoughts. Turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Write down what you are thankful for, talk about the positive moments that happened, and write positive affirmations about yourself.

READ “The Secret” By Rhonda Byrne – Because it will transform your life.

When all else fails…….. A glass of Pinot always does the trick.

The End! ♥